The Power of Your Words

Think for just a minute about how many times you text someone in a day. Think about how many times you call someone.

Consider how many times you have a face to face conversation, with a friend or colleague.

How many of those conversations are spent saying something kind, something meaningful? How many are filled with words of anger or hate?

We do not realize the power that our words can have.

Words can build up those around you. They can bring a smile to a frowning face.

Words can break the back or a weary traveler. They can destroy an already fragile self-esteem.

When I first started working at Wendy’s, I was terrified. I had no prior experience working in the “real world”.

Heck, I didn’t really know how to function. I was so nervous and so shy.

I tried my best to be someone that people would like. I put on a facade.

The thing that brought me out of my shell was one coworker with a quirky sense of humor.

I was having a rough night, running behind on tasks for the close. All of a sudden, I hear the most amazing thing ever-

“The Krusty Krab pizza is the pizza for you and… MEEEEE!”

I laughed so hard I cried. I felt so much better.

I knew then that I could just be myself at work, and wouldn’t have to worry about being someone I wasn’t.

Is it one of my biggest dreams to make someone smile every day. No matter what kind of day I am having, I want someone else to feel better.

With that in mind, I present a challenge- Say something meaningful and kind to someone once a day. More if you so choose!

I can guarantee that you, and the person you talk to, will feel so much better.

“Your words

Make you who you are

Keep them close”

Robin Williams once said “No matter what people tell you, words and ideas can change the world”

What you say, and how you say it, can change the world.

You can change the world.

 

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Going the Distance: the Long Distance

No one likes being apart from their significant other. No one does.

Sometimes, you have to though.

In my case, it was when I made the decision to move cross country for college. I left my brand new fiance 1700 miles east from Idaho.

It’s been hard.

Sometimes, it’s been physically and emotionally taxing. Almost too much to bear.

However, our love has only gotten stronger.

“How is that possible?” you may ask. “That doesn’t make any sense!”

Oh yes it does.

When you’re physically away from someone you love, the bond you have can become stronger. It can also become weaker.

It just depends on how much effort you are willing to put into the relationship. And how much you really care about your partner.

There are a few life hacks to enduring such a trial in your life.

In my own experience, I’ve done a lot of the things listed in the link above. My fiance and I Skype every night after he gets home from work.

We’ve started playing Trivia Crack every so often, to keep our minds sharp, as well as let a little friendly competition into the relationship.

I’ll text him “Good Morning” when I wake up, and he’ll text me “Good Night” when he goes to bed.

We have tacos every Tuesday at the same time each week. Sometimes, we have to work around each other’s schedules, but it’s not a big deal.

Maybe you don’t have to spend 3 months away from your loved one. Maybe it’s only one month.

Maybe it’s longer. A year, or two, possibly even longer.

In the end, it’s not how much you time you spent apart that matters. It’s how you treat each other when you get back that matters most.

27 days from now, in a small airport in Dayton, Ohio, I will be reunited with my fiance after spending 3 long months apart. It’ll be such a sweet moment, looking out and seeing him waiting for me at the end of the hallway next to the baggage claim.

I can guarantee you, I’ll run into his arms, crying like a baby. And our time apart will be over.

We’ll be together again, at long last.

Changing Yourself: A Personal Story

I myself am not the person I once was. I am changed, and yet I am the same.

So what?

I want to tell you my story, not to brag, not to impress. To tell you why I am the way I am.

When I was eight, my parents divorced. Right before I was going to be baptized.

Being a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having your father baptize you at the age of eight is a HUGE deal.

My father couldn’t.

To say I was crushed is an understatement. It threw me into a depression that would last for the better part of my adolescent life, into adulthood.

As I grew up, I started to resent who I was. I started to give up on myself.

I felt like I wasn’t wanted. I felt like I didn’t belong.

In retrospect, that was my own fault. I dragged myself down into the lowest places.

I was living a hellish nightmare. No matter how hard I tried, I could not wake up.

For almost 11 years this went on. Dark, thick black clouds hung in my mind, stemming any ray of light.

I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t myself.

Something needed to change. I needed to change.

So I did.

Not quickly, mind you. It’s taken considerable time and effort.

There have been setbacks, some small, but some major.  Still, I battle every day to fight the sometimes overwhelming feeling to break down and give up.

Over the years, I have learned something very valuable: Be yourself.

I know, how cliche is that?

However- Being who you really are is the thing you are best at. No one else in all this Earth can be who you are better than yourself.

You are the most qualified to be YOU.

Do not let anyone else tell you who you are supposed to be. They don’t know what they’re talking about.

Only you can change yourself.

It may not take a life-altering event, like my parent’s divorce, that may make you want to change.

Remember: No matter what everyone else says, you are amazing. Flaws, mistakes, imperfections and all.

Friendship or Endship?

Everyone has that friend who hangs out with the group, but no one really likes. Almost like you have a contract to be around them.

At the same time, everyone has that one friend who you do everything with, from being partners in class to going on a vacations.

Some friends are only meant for a short time.

Some friends are meant to last a lifetime.

According to an article in the Atlantic, there are three things you most need in a friendship: Someone that you can talk to, someone that you can depend on, and someone you can enjoy being in their company.

So basically, you need someone awesome.

However, not everyone you meet is as amazing as your best friend. There are some toxic people out there.

People who suck the life out of you, drain you of emotion, and mess you up.

Toxic friends are the ones who sneak snide remarks into their conversations with you, commenting in a rude or demeaning way.

In an article on WebMD, they discuss different ways that a friendship can be toxic. If a friend is draining you mentally, emotionally or financially, and not repaying their debt, it’s toxic.

Your friendship needs to “endship”.

Quickly.

The thing is, we choose who our friends are. We make that choice, picking one person over another.

“You can pick your nose, you can pick your friends, but you can’t pick your friends nose”. You can, but I wouldn’t recommend doing that.

Our friendships are voluntary, and how we treat our friends is voluntary.

Think about that next time you go to talk to a friend. How would you want them to treat you?

Opinions of a Presidential Scale

In a presidential election, the candidates are either Democrats or Republicans. Occasionally there will be someone from a smaller, lesser known party that will run.

According to the Washington Post, a majority of those that will vote for the Democrat will be black women from the ages of 69 to 86 years.

Likewise, also stated in the Washington Post, those more likely to vote for the Republican candidate are Mormons.

I know right?

Robert Gehrke of the Salt Lake Tribune says that the reason that the Mormons are on the top of that list is because they have a strong sense of patriotism. Also stated in the Salt Lake Tribune, Gehrke says that “94 percent of members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints believe the Constitution and Bill of Rights are divinely inspired”.

I don’t know about you, but I think I’m part of that 94 percent.

What if you aren’t?

Then I say more power to you. You shouldn’t have to be stuck in a stereotype that doesn’t fit you.

No matter what anyone else says, you should be able to vote for whoever and whatever you want to.

For example, you could be part of the United States Pirate Party, which supports reform of copyright laws and pirating of materials.

Or you could be part of the Green Party. Or the American Vegetarian Party.

The list is endless.

Just like the things that you believe in. You should never sacrifice what you believe in to support the beliefs of others.

Be who you are, and who you are you must be.

 

Opinions About Religions

Most often, you don’t hear much talk about religion in a public setting. It may come up in conversation but only, it seems, if one is brave enough to talk about it.

So what’s the deal?

Why the hesitation?

These days, most people are afraid of offending someone by having different beliefs. They choose to be politically polite, instead of being consciously curious.

The very definition of political correctness, as defined by Merriam-Webster, says that we are careful about what we say so as not to offend others.

One thing I’ve learned in life is that you aren’t going to make everyone happy. Some people aren’t going to like what you say.

When you add political correctness into the equation of how people feel about religion, it becomes a different animal altogether.

Religious Correctness” is very similar to “Political Correctness”, in that it is simply talking about the uneasiness that comes when talking about religion in a public place, where many different people of many different faiths may be.

In a recent study done by the Pew Research Center, they found that more people consider Jews, Catholics, and evangelical Christians to be the “warmest” (friendliest) groups of religious people. Mormons had a neutral feeling towards them.

While this statistic may have changed, the general public uneasiness to discuss religion has not. Very rarely will I ever go into a public place and declare that I am Mormon.

However, there is something we all can do to combat this ever growing fear of offending someone because they may not believe the same things that we do.

Just say it anyway!

Most people are under the assumption that religion only comes from a certain economic standpoint, or perhaps just the insane idea that maybe there is someone or something out to help us through our journey of life.

Mark Taylor tells that in a world increasingly subject to political correctness, there is a certain way that we can teach it to the students of tomorrow.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions.

But not everyone is brave enough to speak them.

So next time you’re faced with the challenge of talking about you’re religion, don’t be afraid to talk about it.

Talk about it in a way that you know you are comfortable with.

First Impressions are Key

Whenever you meet someone, do you ever judge them by what you first see? Maybe how they are dressed, or how they walk, or how they stutter when they talk?

All too often, we make the mistake of assuming someone is Goth just because they are wearing all black.

Or we assume someone is a preppy school girl because she is wearing designer jeans and a lot of make up.

Maybe that’s not it.

Maybe there is more.

The first thing you notice about a person is the first thing you use to judge them. Appearance, how you look and how you act, is how people make their decision of who you are, before getting to know you.

The Society for Personality and Social Psychology (SPSP) conducted a study recently that proves just that. Appearance is everything.

No matter what they say, people are judging you. CONSTANTLY.

You cannot escape it.

But you can make a good first impression.

In an article published on their website, the American Psychological Association gives 6 concepts to help you prepare to make a great first impression.

But we all know there is much more to you than just how you look.

You have personality.

You have style.

And as much as we hate the concept, there are stereotypes for first impressions.

There are assumptions based on what shoes you are wearing, on how quickly you can speak, on how you walk. The BPS Research Digest put out an article explaining the different ways that you are judged, most often when you don’t realize it.

Next time, before you go and assume something about someone, remember:

There is more than meets the eye.